Lately I’ve been talking to everyone I can about the Four Tendencies since it has helped me understand why people who seem to be very different from me do the things that they do. With this understanding has come compassion because I can understand that they are motivated by different things than I am, and that a world made up of all four tendencies is the best world possible.
Learning the Four Tendencies has helped me be a better chiropractor to my patients as well. To understand why, you have to know a little about each tendency.
- Upholders value self-command and execution. Their motto: Discipline is my freedom.
- Obligers value teamwork and duty. Their motto: You can count on me, and I’m counting on you to count on me.
- Questioners value justification, efficiency, and purpose. Their motto: I’ll comply if you convince me why.
- Rebels value freedom, choice, self-identity. Their motto: You can’t make me, and neither can I.
So, if I can give Upholders very specific ideas about what kind of treatment plan and what kind of Home Care is expected to get the best results, they will do it. If I tell Obligers that I’m expecting them to come back within a certain time frame, or that I’ll be asking them if they did their Home Care at their next visit, they’ll be more likely to do it. Questioners appreciate that I love to explain things and I have learned that the time I invest in answering their questions will pay off in the form of better outcomes. Rebels often like to keep their schedules free and so I’ve learned to stop pestering them about when they’d like to come in next. The less I push, the more likely they are to come in on their own.
How does your tendency influence your life and your worldview? What strengths and weaknesses do you experience as someone of your tendency? To learn your tendency, take this quiz.
To learn how the Four Tendencies respond differently to Covid, here’s the latest blog post by Gretchen Rubin, developer of the framework.